I have come to the understanding that there are four primary positions; Sun, Ascendent, Mercury and Mars. The exception to this is, in business you would want to include Jupiter. In these positions, Primary and Secondary compatibility is advised. Meaning, Fire with Fire or Air and Water with Water or Earth; no exceptions! I am learning this for myself, the hard way.

Secondary positions are; Moon, Venus and Jupiter when not in business. In this you can go outside the box a little. In this; Leo and Leo is not a good match, it is an OK match. So this is where you can have same signs and you should be OK. Also; this is where Leo can compromise and go for its neighboring signs, Cancer or Virgo. Never should you compromise your primaries!

After this, the rest can very; but always look for your best! You can be friends with OK matches, but don’t get too close because this is where your going to get hurt. NOW. I am only touching on the basics; there is a lot more details to look at, like Aspects.

One may have a Charles Manson chart when looking at planetary alignments, but what does their aspects say about them??? Always find the time and location of birth so you can know their Aspect, make sure you look at house placements and how they match your house placements; this is VERY important.

Never get too close to anyone for at least 6 months, this will give you time to get to know them better. They can only hide so much about themselves for so long. The closer you get, the more you will know, just be careful of the burn. It takes about 6 months to a year to know if this is someone you may be able to trust within your circle, but if you fallow the above perimeters, it will make you quest easier because some people are better at hiding themselves then others.

My current situation is good for the most part; but I have Venus in Leo and she Venus in Taurus. This may be a challenge, but the astrology we have read so far looks good for us in this aspect. Our real challenge in Mercury… I am Mercury in Virgo and she is Mercury in Aries. It is well aspected by our houses and so we can make this work. My Mercury is in the house of Aquarius and hers is Libra, that is good 🙂 Most all our other signs are all Primary, secondary or third and well aspected. We got along great for six month, but now it is a challenge.

We almost broke up already, actually we kind of did for a couple days. We are working through it, but it is going to be some work. I pray we are still together on the other side. Faith has a lot to do with it. Now that I have learned more, I will have to go back and look at my grandparent’s charts; they are not astrologically compatible yet they have been together since they were in their teens, that is amazing! They chose to get over themselves and work it out, they are my hero’s!

Choose your charts wisely; the better you place your signs, the easier it will be. Trauma is another issue. Both my girlfriend and I are dealing with past traumas, this is something you can use astrology to help you with; but time and patience is the most important key I think. Taurus is a place in a chart that traumatizes easily, don’t let your Taurus be damaged! Where is my Taurus??? My Vortex is in Taurus, not sure what that means yet… One of my Virgo’s is a strong Virgo and the other has influence of Capricorn. My Capricorns have influence of Virgo… My Rahu is in the house of Taurus along with two other miner aspects/asteroids. My Eros is in Taurus, and that I see maybe have some trauma attached to it and so I am working on it.

My Mercury I feel is traumatized because I don’t take well to aggressive speech and demeanor. That is why I don’t hang out in clubs and bars. My father though he is now a better person, was an abusive alcoholic. Many of my Ex’s were Bipolar and my Ex of 2012 use to curse out her kids like my did did us as a child and that effected me as if she was doing to me. After her and I split up, I rented the other half of my duplex to a single mom who also cursed out her children on a daily basis. I had to do a Trauma medication at that point. I still take an herb called GABA and it is good for many more things.

So in things like Communication and the way you appear (Mercury and Ascendent), you may be able to work through some of the differences. Aspects help a lot! Mars is energy and sexual needs; so if one has Mars in Water in the house of Air and the other has Mars in Fire in the house if Earth or Water, it could work. There are other aspects, like the older person needs to have the stronger Mars so that they can keep up with the younger partner.

Study your charts carefully before moving to far to fast…